Words to remember from my line journal
02.03.2020
“You can’t heal what you can’t feel” wow
11.03.2020
The heart to do good equates also, to the heart to resist the need to compare. Both are somehow necessary to rise above negativity. Simplifying the why behind my actions really makes things so much easier. It’s never about what I can gain visibly, but what I can contribute. Because through contributing, I’ve already gained immensely.
Please remember this chen.
Please remember this chen.
02.05.2020
“Speak truth in such a way that it should be pleasing to others. Never speak truth, which is unpleasant to others. Never speak untruth, which might be pleasant.”
Speak unpleasant truths only when you’ve truly understood the person and know that even though the truth may be unpleasant in the short run, it’s good for the person in the long run”
So very true, truths behind speaking truths”
Speak unpleasant truths only when you’ve truly understood the person and know that even though the truth may be unpleasant in the short run, it’s good for the person in the long run”
So very true, truths behind speaking truths”
17.05.2020
What do you fear at work?
I fear being myopic I fear that we get overly concerned by what’s immediately in front of us that we close our minds to what’s out there. I fear that we stop thinking about how to better our crafts, that we naively decided that what we know is enough what we do is good enough and stop becoming better.
Of course it’s not to say we should blindly chase after some invisible goals but I ask that for every thing that we do, beyond thinking about completing it, we also spend some time to wonder how can we do it better next time.
I fear being myopic I fear that we get overly concerned by what’s immediately in front of us that we close our minds to what’s out there. I fear that we stop thinking about how to better our crafts, that we naively decided that what we know is enough what we do is good enough and stop becoming better.
Of course it’s not to say we should blindly chase after some invisible goals but I ask that for every thing that we do, beyond thinking about completing it, we also spend some time to wonder how can we do it better next time.
19.08.2020
How this also taught me about the kinds of conversation I would like to have, the kind of differences I would like to agree to disagree. If it’s communication style I can understand but if it’s communication etiquette, I don’t think there’s much to disagree about.
Maybe a ten year younger me will still stick around, trying to figure out the discrepancies between words and actions. But I suppose these ten years taught me that between words and actions, if I have to choose, it will be actions hands down.
Maybe a ten year younger me will still stick around, trying to figure out the discrepancies between words and actions. But I suppose these ten years taught me that between words and actions, if I have to choose, it will be actions hands down.
23.09.2020
17.01.2021
And I realise I like going to school. I like going to places that people feel like they wanna do something and not that they are being told to do something
07.03.2021
And I wonder if I did the right thing. Do people really want to see different sides? Or do most people just want to only see what they see and hear what they want to hear? No wrong but I guess what I really wanna do is to leverage on my strengths to allow people to see alternatives. And in seeing alternatives, they learn to sense make and seek their own perceived truth.
Never lose this chen. Your ability to see things in greater shades and hence use this to illuminate the world more!
Never lose this chen. Your ability to see things in greater shades and hence use this to illuminate the world more!
10.03.2021
To unarm people, to first seek to understand, to be able to put forth perspective and not advices.
To let the person feel understood and also to let the person see alternatives, and not that they have no choice.
To let the person feel understood and also to let the person see alternatives, and not that they have no choice.
14.05.2021
Not the limelight, it’s that I don’t really need to control. Or have the need to command others, to follow my way.
Not about limelight
Strength
Versatility
Ability to make sense of things and relate
Enjoy helping people grow
Value open comms
Weakness
Doesnt really need control which will impact my ability to command and control. Doesn’t believe in doing things my way, may struggle to “command” others. More comfy in everyone discussing and having an agreed way.
Doesn’t really enjoy being in the fore, can do all the background things
Of course if needed, I can. But it’s a preference thing.
In a way, I don’t want to become the
Do it my way leader
Or You do this, you do that, order people around leader
Not about limelight
Strength
Versatility
Ability to make sense of things and relate
Enjoy helping people grow
Value open comms
Weakness
Doesnt really need control which will impact my ability to command and control. Doesn’t believe in doing things my way, may struggle to “command” others. More comfy in everyone discussing and having an agreed way.
Doesn’t really enjoy being in the fore, can do all the background things
Of course if needed, I can. But it’s a preference thing.
In a way, I don’t want to become the
Do it my way leader
Or You do this, you do that, order people around leader
15.06.2021
混一天和努力一天
看不出任何差别
三天看不到任何变化
七天也看不到任何距离
但是一个月后会看到话题不同
三个月后会看到气场不同
一年后就是完全不同的两个人
这就是时间的秘密
你敷衍了时间
时间也便敷衍了你
所以，请不要在该吃苦的年纪选择安逸
愿时间不会亏待你的努力
愿我们都能成为自己想成为的人
看不出任何差别
三天看不到任何变化
七天也看不到任何距离
但是一个月后会看到话题不同
三个月后会看到气场不同
一年后就是完全不同的两个人
这就是时间的秘密
你敷衍了时间
时间也便敷衍了你
所以，请不要在该吃苦的年纪选择安逸
愿时间不会亏待你的努力
愿我们都能成为自己想成为的人
03.07.2021
For tax
Idea is calculate total rents you collect in the year. Then deduct by the expenses you paid. Claimable ones will be property tax of the year, fire insurance, maintenance funds, mortgage interest (the debit column of the year statement), and any repairs.
Idea is calculate total rents you collect in the year. Then deduct by the expenses you paid. Claimable ones will be property tax of the year, fire insurance, maintenance funds, mortgage interest (the debit column of the year statement), and any repairs.
08.07.2021
Chen pls let this be a strong reminder of what you value. Not just as an employee but as a leader, it’s competence. Not just being technically good but also being present for your team. To not be blinded by what’s happening on the surface but have the humility to peer deeper, to understand and to be accountable.
11.07.2021
Great leadership is not letting people realise how great you are but you helping people to realise how great they are
01.09.2021
Remember why and what you set out for. It’s never to be better than others or to outbeat anyone. It’s never a competition chen.
04.09.2021
Delegate to empower, not to get rid of ones task
Top 5 strength
Ideation
Restorative
Learner
Developer
Individualization
Oct 4 2021
Individualization
Strategic
Activator
Ideation
Learner
Ideation
Restorative
Learner
Developer
Individualization
Oct 4 2021
Individualization
Strategic
Activator
Ideation
Learner
26.09.2021
It is one thing to do our best and fail and another to not give our best and wish it fails…
13.11.2021
Write to be understood
Speak to be heard
Read to grow
Speak to be heard
Read to grow
12.03.2022
Not sure if it’s the right thing to say to leaders who’s pushing hard for me. But I think it’s clear for me, it’s all about mobility - to stay because I want to, not because I have to. That’s why a bond will be too much to undertake.
30.03.2022
No one is rushing you
No one is expecting you to give the best presentation
No one is looking for the right answers from you
So just take your time
Get your groove
Feel your feet
Move around
If it helps, just imagine you’re talking to one person
And speak at your own pace
Do better chen, learn from it. It’s okay to start afresh, after all it has been years since you’re required to talk in front of crowds. It’s okay, one step at a time and don’t shy away.
No one is expecting you to give the best presentation
No one is looking for the right answers from you
So just take your time
Get your groove
Feel your feet
Move around
If it helps, just imagine you’re talking to one person
And speak at your own pace
Do better chen, learn from it. It’s okay to start afresh, after all it has been years since you’re required to talk in front of crowds. It’s okay, one step at a time and don’t shy away.
25.04.2022
A good read to understand the psychological underpinnings of feeling indebted. How my thought of not wanting anything actually makes it worse, cos it makes someone who’s a natural giver, passive and therefore creates the imbalance that he/she can never be able to do anything to repay the care that he/she has received from me.
And from this article, it shows that instead of just continuously asserting I don’t need anything, I need to learn to ask for help, to balance back the scale.
What an enlightenment, just ask for help.
And from this article, it shows that instead of just continuously asserting I don’t need anything, I need to learn to ask for help, to balance back the scale.
What an enlightenment, just ask for help.
29.06.2022
Timely read on what civil service mean to the 4G leaders
https://www.todayonline.com/commentary/commentary-lessons-past-way-forward-how-civil-servants-can-support-political-leaders-1934091
https://www.todayonline.com/commentary/commentary-lessons-past-way-forward-how-civil-servants-can-support-political-leaders-1934091
08.07.2022
I’ve come to realise that really there can never be a true right or wrong or the best time for anything. Things just happen and people are just always gonna fight for what matter to them. And what matters to me is at the end of the day, have I done right by what I could? Did I try to bring people along the journey no matter how temporary that could be, did I do the best I can for a greater good and most importantly, did I remember to tend to my soul that it’s crucial to really enjoy the process and learn from what didn’t go well to make sure I do better the next. And honestly, nothing is permanent chen, not the time you have in this job and also not the relationship you have w people, just do the best you can and you’re good.
14.01.2023
without having to think about what we are and where we are heading too. And really just being present in the interactions
26.04.2023
Difference between IO and HR?
HR is the broad strokes we are the fine strokes. Like a painting, HR set the pace, determine the skeletal of human resource support and we come in to smoothen the edge, beautify and enhance the intensity of the strokes to help make the final piece more attractive.
Eg they put in place the recruitment process (broad strokes), we come in to administer the psych test and help fine tune the selection quality
Similarly, they put in place leadership management programme, we come in to introduce initiatives that will enhance leadership skills to help find tune the quality of leaders we have
HR is the broad strokes we are the fine strokes. Like a painting, HR set the pace, determine the skeletal of human resource support and we come in to smoothen the edge, beautify and enhance the intensity of the strokes to help make the final piece more attractive.
Eg they put in place the recruitment process (broad strokes), we come in to administer the psych test and help fine tune the selection quality
Similarly, they put in place leadership management programme, we come in to introduce initiatives that will enhance leadership skills to help find tune the quality of leaders we have
06.05.2023
Important to rmb chen, for effective pitch. Know your audience, know your USP
https://www.todayonline.com/commentary/commentary-how-be-better-understood-work-and-sell-your-ideas-bosses-successfully-2185781
https://www.todayonline.com/commentary/commentary-how-be-better-understood-work-and-sell-your-ideas-bosses-successfully-2185781
31.05.2023
Interesting article to rmb the syndromes and how to deal w them tactfully
https://www.entrepreneur.com/growing-a-business/3-destructive-employee-syndromes-no-boss-can-tolerate/253503
https://www.entrepreneur.com/growing-a-business/3-destructive-employee-syndromes-no-boss-can-tolerate/253503
11.06.2023
Chen, 你是很有想法，but rmb that closed minds can’t take anything. Be patient, and be human. Understand the person you’re serving first. Understand what they are fighting towards, their fear, their glory, their drive and what’s keeping them up at night. Digest all these, know what’s happening before injecting your views.
20.06.2023
看破而不搓破
25.06.2023
After a year or so, what is leadership to you chen?
Leadership if I could summarise in one behaviour, it’s about showing up.
And showing up consistently.
Showing up with support when your team is down
Showing up with jokes when your team is feeling blah
Showing up w vision when your team is lost
Showing up w meaningful conversation when the team is idling
Most importantly it’s showing up for yourself when you feel like you’re not up to it
Leadership if I could summarise in one behaviour, it’s about showing up.
And showing up consistently.
Showing up with support when your team is down
Showing up with jokes when your team is feeling blah
Showing up w vision when your team is lost
Showing up w meaningful conversation when the team is idling
Most importantly it’s showing up for yourself when you feel like you’re not up to it
30.06.2023
Always remember to have it within yourself to present both sides so that people can be their own judge and have the ability to share balanced views.
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